To Wonder Why

Why do the ghosts of our past follow us into the future? Strangely enough I am not speaking of myself this time. I have a friend who is dealing with some really rough things. Things that in the past I myself have had to deal with. But my friend will not open themselves to the help of others. To make matters worse the very cause of the problem appears to be rearing its ugly head and returning to the center stage. How foolish we are as humans to allow such things. This is not a judgment on my part, but rather an observation as I am guilty of the same thing. Some problems are best left to the past, their resolution: to fade in memory as unresolved. This is because for many problems (of the social and emotional sort) there are no true, clear, or real solutions. Rather there are states of existence, they are different, but nothing will ever fix a problem, and a scar will forever remain a scar. It pains me to watch others go through what I have, and even more so to not be able to help steer them away from my own failures. But then again, the lessons we learn must be learned by us and no one else can do that learning in our place...