Decisions Decisions

I had a long and thoughtful post just about done on the inaccuracies of translation across language barriers with examples from latin to modern english... But then I realized that I may be the only one who cares about such things, and that something more important has come up to ramble about. Namely, my long lost favorite topic, women.

Why is it that guys feel that girls need help in making the "right" decisions? I am as guilty as the next guy in this (okay, so maybe more guilty as I have tried to change this one chick's mind for years...) But seriously. Although I speak not from a position of knowledge, I'm sure that women can make up their own darn mind about what is good for them. This includes not picking me over other guys. I bring it up because my argument to a friend has spilled all over my blog. Why as men do we occasionally feel the need to help educate women as to what is best for them... This education normally includes the "pick me I'm better than him" line on some conscious or unconscious level whether the woman is in a relationship or not. Why as men do we feel entitled to help make these decisions for them, when frankly they are perfectly capable of making their own decisions? Have the movies brainwashed us into thinking a last ditch, guns blazing (my favorite way to crash and burn) attempt will change the woman's mind and let you come in and sweep her off her feet. Or is it some kind of hunter-gatherer layover that says that we are responsible for the well being of the females around us and thus we must make them do what we think is best for them. Such thinking does not make everyone happy, but rather puts strain on friendships and ends up hurting the guy in the end.

I do not want to have to buy a relationship, I wish to earn it on merit, but I am willing to give whatever it takes to do so... These words have been uttered by me (or some such rendition) several times, and have never worked, and I'm sure many have said them before. Its a setup for failure. Being the good or bad guy, when your not THE GUY does nothing for you. The good guy accepts failure, and the bad guy earns failure, there is no success to be had. It is up to the girl to decide to save the day for you and let you be a hero, there really is no other way for it to work. Besides what would it be worth if she simply did what you said? Similarly why push a girl to annoyance and frustration, as these things will not help your case. I suppose we do this because we fear the alternative. The possibility of never getting a shot, and waiting forever for one. We choose to give up friendship in whole for the chance to be something more... But if she does not, why push her?

This message is hauntingly self applicable, but it truly is not about me as I write it this moment. I still stand by the teacher's credo "do as I say, not as I do" and admit I am quite guilty of this and a very slow learner of its principles (...years...).

So sorry, I had a discussion about it not more than an hour ago and figured I should at least write one pro feminine argument in this blog, as most times I just lament and bash them. But as the ones I've dealt with will tell you, I'm just unlucky like that to have chosen them... I still hope they will come around, but I too need to learn, it's not up to me to make them do so (okay so that last part was about me).

Lesson of the day: women are perfectly capable of making their own decisions, so stop trying to force them to make the ones you want them to (for example: dating Rambley Dave).