Over-Analyzation

So, I've been spending my time doing exactly what I should not, but then again, that's who I am. My conclusion is: I did everything wrong. From this conclusion I have some notes and pointers, and plan to demonstrate using projector slides and a power point presentation... but I'll keep it simple with words.

Failure 1: On the job
- I believe the rule is, never interfere with a person's professional life in a manner that is a component of their personal life. I.E. I should have never approached her on the topic at her place of work, and especially not in front of the hostesses.

Failure 2: Timing
- She just ended a long term relationship, she needs time, not guys asking her out. Granted if I waited, someone would come along and beat me to the punch. So timing is a possible point of failure, but not a major one.

Failure 3: Manlaw
- Gotta put this one out there, if a guy is making a serious effort to ask out a girl, another guy should not make comments that would belittle the first guy's attempt. Such things cause problems as they present a kobayashi maru of sorts in that there becomes a no win situation. Being demeaned means that guy 1, to regain his social stance must put guy 2 back in his place and redeem himself, however by doing so he lowers guy2 on the social power scale, becoming aggressive by retaliation.

Failure 4: Me
- I am naturally bad at the social male-female dynamic when it comes to propositioning a dating experience. Here I count myself as a failure point.

Failure 5: I am not impressive
- Being bad at social interactions for the purposes of romantic relationships (somehow almost exclusively to this area) makes my fumbling with words come out as just plain stupid, confusing my motives and my meanings. Even worse that I am an English Graduate and have the vocabulary to fumble with.

Failure 6: Over-Analyzation
- By catalogeuing my points of failure I will end up over thinking everything and scold myself into a corner of inactivity by which there will be no action to take that will not have a chance of failure.

Failure 7: History
- I know her and friends of hers, some of her friends and I have history in one way or another. I am generally liked, and hold nothing against all of them, but normally history is seen as a bad thing, even if it is not.

Failure 8: Nice guys always loose
- I will end up somehow trying to be nice and be a friend and not push things and blah blah blah which will end up with me still as a friend and her dating someone else because I didn't have the stones to decide when to say when and rather did things to be kind and gentle and keep things from being awkward (no guts no glory)

Failure 9: Over Action
- By deciding that I will fail by doing nothing, I shall rather do everything and fail by that means.


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